Have u ever asked someone about their relationship history?
When u did what did you really want to find out? How much emotional baggage are they carrying? What was the probability of running into an Ex? Their history of sexual activity?
Or just what went wrong before?
There can be a different view of each answer, and each can be as tricky. Not asking the right question will not give u the right answer. Because
“In a relationship sometimes, U could be anchored without any physical relationship or not anchored at all even with a physical relationship.”
What running all over my mind right now is which is more a matter of concern. Of course to different people different things can matter. So in pursuit of the answer we desire to know we may need to ask the right question.
There are also people who have a blank slate for relationships history. To me even that can be a matter of concern. As tat could mean there is a confusion in the state of the persons. Is it fear, of being hurt or just being bound down tat keeps them a poles distance from any kind of emotional anchoring or is it a lack of insight to see thing move in steps, u just cant jump to the safe step, risk nd dare is a part of the growing process and it cannot be passed over.
Like I have said before, no one wants bad thing to happen to them. No one will get into anything thinking/knowing its going to hurt them, but as time passes thing change, people change, everything changes and an imprint of such changes is a aftermath of things not going as planned/foreseen. So what can u do about it? Carry on, make some more changes to accommodate the previous irregularities.
To be continued……….
